The Challenges of Marriage as a Muslim Revert

The Challenges of Marriage as a Muslim Revert

As a revert to Islam, I know firsthand the difficulties that can come with entering into an Islamic marriage. From lack of understanding and acceptance from the Muslim community, to navigating cultural differences and pressure to conform to traditional customs, the journey of finding a partner and building a successful marriage can be a challenging one for reverts. 

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One major challenge is the lack of understanding and acceptance from the Muslim community. Many people within the community are not familiar with the concept of reverts and may question our commitment to the faith. This can make it difficult to find a suitable partner within the community, as some may be hesitant to marry someone who they perceive as not being a "true" Muslim. I remember the stares and questions I got about my tattoos. I remember my future in-laws seemed to be keen on knowing when I was planning on getting them removed and if they would be gone by the time of the wedding. 

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Cultural Differences The Challenges of Marriage as a Muslim Revert

Another difficulty is navigating the cultural differences that may come with marrying someone from a different background. As a revert, I may not have grown up with the same customs and traditions as my husband, but I do enjoy learning about his families traditions and customs. However, the opposite isn't always true. For example, during Christmas time, it's difficult for him to take part in my family's holiday traditions. And although I've limited which activities I take part in, it's often difficult letting go of traditions that are so deep rooted in your childhood memories.

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Additionally, there may be pressure to have a traditional, arranged marriage, which can be difficult for reverts who may not be comfortable with this approach or who may want to get to know their potential partner first. What's nice is that recently there have been more organizations within and outside the mosques, that cater to social events for this purpose. There have recently also been a number of apps designed to help single Muslims get married.

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Not Everyone Approves

Furthermore, the lack of support from family and friends who may not understand or accept our decision to convert can make the process even more difficult. Although most of my family, including my parents were supportive of my decision to accept Islam, there were a few people in my family who didn't approve. It even went so far as some of my close cousins who I grew up with cut ties with me and refused to attend my wedding. 

The Challenges of Marriage as a Muslim Revert

Despite these challenges, I believe that with open communication and mutual understanding, a successful Islamic marriage is possible for reverts. It is important for both partners to have a strong understanding of and commitment to the faith, as well as a willingness to learn and adapt to each other's backgrounds. I am truly blessed not just to have found Islam as my deen, but also to have been blessed with an amazing husband who has supported my journey since day one.

Overall, being a revert to Islam and entering into a new Islamic marriage can be a difficult journey, but with patience, understanding and support, it can be a rewarding one.

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